Balancing the truths of God’s Word while staying gracious towards others is a constant tension in which the Christian life is lived. This tension is seen very clearly in the debates and discussions within the church regarding the topic of homosexuality. How do we as Christians stand with the biblical precedent that homosexuality is a sin while also responding in love and grace towards those struggling with homosexuality?
Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others without Sacrificing Conviction is a very helpful resource in helping the church begin to better answer this question. Caleb Kaltenbach writes with the heart of a son for parents that he loves yet disagrees with while refusing to compromise the Bible’s teachings on the topic of homosexuality.
Written through the lens of Caleb’s life story, Messy Grace is a powerful testimony to the work of God in His life while also clearly showing the areas where Christians have failed to show grace to his parents and to others regarding homosexuality. The hatred of Caleb’s parents for Christians throughout the majority of the book’s storyline is not without warrant. Many people failed to represent Jesus well to those who did not know Him. These chapters also show the amazing grace of God in saving Caleb, drawing him to Himself, and calling him to ministry. The weaving of the grace of God in the midst of the Kaltenbach family is truly a work of grace.
In the midst of a very heated topic in the church, Messy Grace does a very effective job of shining a light on the humanity of the struggle while calling the church to engage people with the gospel while leading with grace but never denying truth. This is a challenging read that anyone seeking to engage others should read and consider.