Biblical Principles for Dating Relationships: Principle 2

Principle 2: Recognize that You Are Both Created in God’s Image and Are Indwelt by the Holy Spirit

The fact that both of the people in the relationship are created in the image of God (Genesis 1Open Link in New Window: 27) gives you both inherent worth and value to and in the Creator.  You are both prized masterpieces of the God who breathed into your lungs the breath of life.  This gives you a perspective that should alter some perceptions:


  • See Yourself As God Sees You: You have value derived not from the other person or your relationship.  Your value is firmly rooted in a Creator God who loves you.  To seek your primary value and worth in the other person or the relationship is to practice spiritual adultery on the God who created you.
  • See The Other Person As God Sees Them: They also derive their value from God so when you interact and relate with them realize that you are interacting with a child of God.  Are you affirming or defaming the masterpiece that God has made known as the person you are in a relationship with?

The fact that if both of you are believers you are indwelt with the Holy Spirit is seen most clearly in 1 Corinthians 6Open Link in New Window: 12-20.  The most powerful picture of this indwelling is seen in verses 15 and 16, which states: “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ?  Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never!  Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one with her? For as it is written, ‘The two will become one flesh.’”  This is a picture of taking the Holy Spirit into whatever you do in all relationships including dating.  The picture of the Holy Spirit being joined to a prostitute is seen in the sexual immorality that is presented in this passage (see Principle 4 for an extended discussion of the sin of sexual immorality). 

The passage then goes on to state the role of the body as a temple, the primary place for the Holy Spirit to dwell in our lives.  Verses 19 and 20 note: “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God?  You are not your own for your were bought with a price.  So glorify God in your body.”  Our bodies are not our own.  They are the Holy Spirit’s possession through the death of Jesus Christ on the cross.  We are called to act and live in ways that bring great glory to God through our body.  This is why the picture above of uniting our bodies to a prostitute is so appalling to Paul.